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Learn moreSocial media seems easy especially because the barrier to entry is low. You can be up and running on any social media platform in minutes, and usually for free. In reality, social media is hard for exactly the same reason. When the barrier to entry is low, the barrier to attention is high.
The fundamental path to succeeding with social media is to consistently contribute meaningfully—engaging with you should make the lives of those engaging more meaningful. The bonus would be to achieve this without adding costs to the others.
As you think through your social media strategy, here are seven unwritten rules of social media.
1. Connection does not imply permission
Many social networks make it easy for you to connect with anyone. You can follow someone on Twitter, Quora or Google Plus without needing their permission to do that. A small percentage of them might follow you back. If they do, you have a two-way connection. Don’t confuse the two-way connection as permission to interrupt them. You need to build a relationship and there is no shortcut for that.
2. Access does not imply entitlement
When you connect with someone on a social network and start engaging with them, you have access. Don’t assume that they owe you something because you are now engaging them on social media.
3. Activity is not productivity
The barrier to create content on a social network is virtually non-existent. This means that you can write whatever you want irrespective of whether it makes sense or not. You can get extremely busy with social media— trying to post anything and everything. In your enthusiasm to share, you might drop the quality of what you share and that’s when the problem starts—people will silently start to ignore you. (To read more, please see 9 ways people respond to your content online.)
4. More is not better
When what you write about is a hit for some reason, you tend to end up doing more of it on social media forgetting that everything has a lifecycle of its own. What’s hot today may not stay hot tomorrow and what’s hot tomorrow may not stay hot. So trying to do more of what works does not guarantee success—you need to adapt all the time.
5. Reciprocation is optional
Don’t do anything with an expectation that someone will reciprocate back. Equal actions don’t create equal impact on social media. Say you have a 1,000 followers and you share something from another person who has 10,000 followers. Expecting him to share something from you would mean you are expecting someone to give back ten times of what you gave them.
6. Amplification without accomplishment is futile
Social media is a great amplifier. But fundamentals of mathematics are always at play. You can multiply zero with anything and the result will still be zero. You need relevant accomplishments as the foundation and social media can help amplify them. Sans accomplishments, it’s hard to amplify. Unless your business is to make money with social media, you have to get out of social media and spend time on building some meaningful accomplishments. Once you have them, you can use those to extend your influence using social media.
7. Engagement without enrichment is not effective
You are only as rich as the enrichment you bring to the world around you. When you enrich someone, you make their life more meaningful—at home or at work or in both places. Social media provides an excellent opportunity enrich people’s lives. Engagement for the sake of engagement can only make you get tired. Engage with an intention to enrich and you will not only win with social media but also makes this world a better place.
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Rajesh Setty is an entrepreneur, author and speaker based in Silicon Valley. He also creates and sells limited-edition prints at Sparktastic. You can follow him on Twitter at @rajsetty.
Great article that I will definitely share with our clients getting started in social media. I often tell clients that social media is like a good dinner party. Two way conversations are vital to its success. Thanks for sharing!http://www.RightBrainMedia.com
It's great. Here are my thoughts about the social media I am a member in:1. Facebook - too much clutter. Everybody wants everybody to know what they are doing on a particular day. The only reason I can be thankful for is that I haven't read of someone's IBS.2. Twitter - too short posts and those in it are posting their sites, not minding what others are posting.3. LinkedIn - not very user-friendly. When I click a notification link, I am taken to the top of the threads page making it necessary for me to scroll through a lot of threads before I see what the notification is about - if ever.Joseph Dabon
I like your take on reciprocation is optional. I think many bloggers do not fully understand this. They visit your blog so that you will visit theirs. A waste of time, really. Or they will follow you on twitter so that you will follow them. Another waste of time.I will follow them of course if they say something of value in my website. I will mention them in my articles if they really present something of value to their audiences. Plain common sense, but often forgotten because man seeks for numbers.
Great post! I especially like "Reciprocation is optional". Lately, it seems as if people are clicking the "Like" button just for the other people ask to return the favor. And if they don't return the favor then they "Unlike" their page. Hmmm! Sounds like a game to me.http://www.corporatecosmo.com
Social media is effective in many ways such as natural disasters and emergencies. Social media can be used smartly with etiquette to boost ones business. Learning social media can even be learned now at major universities. I am taking social media training courses at the University of San Francisco. It is highly ranked by US News and World Report. They have a good internet marketing curriculum. http://www.usanfranonline.com/online-courses/social-media-training.aspx
You give some real good tips on how to engage in Social Media. I like social mediabecause I can gain new ideas from the tips I receive on twitter and facebook.Thanks for the tipshttp://universityofmotivation.com
Your netiquette rules are great. I agree that access is not an entitlement. It is proper netiquette to ask permission for everything. NetworkEtiquette.net
Thanks for the note David.Cheers,Rajesh
I like the last one ... Engagement without enrichment is not effective. There are lots of "new media experts" who only self-promote and never engage. Blatant and continuous self-promoters send a strong message that they don't really care about anyone except themselves. The biggest law of influence generation is ... show me how much YOU care before I bother caring!
It's rare. People don't seek you out, grab you by the collar and shake you saying "You are the definition of spam!" To reform, the spammer must seek out the den of the enlightened but belligerent people, sneak up amidst them, and talk about bad pickup lines, incessant spam, telemarketers. Will he be loved by all or persuasively protective and proffer a profitable prescription. A thick-skinned man does and must reject the well-known wisdom of the suffering masses, but passionately embraces the common man's problem. Muddy thinking gets you in a ditch. More muddy thinking won't drag you out. He cries and complains about being hopelessly stuck. Then he complains when too many people come to his aid with hundreds of ropes, pullies, camels, trucks, lifts, rockets, and roller skates to help him. We can all agree that the guy with roller skates should just go home, but nobody seeks him out, grabs him by the collar and cares enough about him to show him how to be useful and welcome.
Reminds me of the old saying, "I don't care how much you know until I know how much you care."Thanks for the comments.Best,Rajesh
Very relevant and meaningful post ! With social media, an author or a critic seems to be springing up in almost everyone, and people are getting prolific. They are writing whatever comes to their mind - checking neither the meaningfulness or authenticity of the content, nor even the accuracy of the language. People also write things that can hurt sentiments of others. Every power brings a responsibility, every addition to speed demands a greater sense of direction ; so the power of technology that we have in tele-communication, internet, social networking etc would also necessitate that we use it with discrimination and responsibility.
Thanks for the note Hans. The temptation to produce and share content quickly to be "in the game" can get someone carried away.Best,Raj
Great post! I see more and more that these concepts are indeed thoughts I have had as I engage more and more through social media outlets. Reciprocation is indeed optional but I will gravitate towards those who do and I seek those out who do. Love that you outlined that connection does not imply permission and access does not imply entitlement. Especially enjoyed that you finished with engagement without enrichment is not effective. Content is what it is all about! Thanks again for posting.
Thanks for the note and the nice summary :)
Rule #6 is my favorite.
Thanks a ton Austin.
I kept saying "YES!" with every one of these. Well-said and something most people need to know.
Michael, you are an inspiration for me. So with this comment, you made my day :)
Start with thinking about your buyer's journey. Nailing this will ensure that these seven and many other unwritten rules of engagement are considered. The buyer's journey is not an easy thing to nail - most of us continue to think like producers rather than consumers - examples? Call the help desk at Dell.
That's a very good point Tobias. Thanks for sharing.
Agree with all you say. I think social media is a great leveler. The low barrier to entry forces the aspiring user/provider to learn how to deliver value. It's a test-and-learn opportunity with the ultimate evaluation tool - if you are not providing value you don't get very far. Establishing what your audience wants and making it work for them is a simple rule marketing. Patience matters too.
I agree Alan. The general temptation is to look for shortcuts but like in many other areas in life, shortcuts only take longer than the alternate route.
That's great, very effect points you mention here, I'll try to follow the rules on my social media accounts
Thanks for the note.
Thank you for this article. I have been so sceptical about Social Media and recently took some best practice Social Media training, your article has reiterated my conerns but offered the solution and guidance that sits well with me.
Glad you liked the article Ann and thanks for the note.
Another keeper article, Rajesh. Love this line: "You are only as rich as the enrichment you bring to the world around you." Timely advice for someone (me!) getting ready to wade more deeply into social media.
Kathy, you are always kind. Knowing you, you already are enriching the lives of many around you..
Great advice, Rajesh. For most of these reasons I've seriously cut back on the amount of time I spend on LinkedIn discussion boards, for example. Typically what starts out as a valuable sharing of experiences and insights quickly devolves into a stream of consciousness that takes us down various rabbit holes...but people keep posting! I particularly applaud you pointing out how social media needs to fit into someone's overall business strategy (not least by establishing and nurturing relationships) rather becoming a stand-alone time suck. The subtlety that so many people are overlooking right now is that of contributing to and even shaping a conversation without constantly coming across as "me, me, me" and "sell, sell, sell." This is still a relatively new form of social interaction, of course. One can only hope that with time and practice we settle down into some shared understanding (unconscious competence) around how to use this powerful connector that transcends geography and other physical barriers to exchanging ideas.
Liz, thank you so much for the note. Yes, while it seems like social media has been around for a LONG time, it's still nascent. Sooner than later, everyone will realize that the fundamental principles to succeed are the same on or off social media.
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