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7 Unwritten Rules Of Social Media

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July 21, 2011

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Social media seems easy especially because the barrier to entry is low. You can be up and running on any social media platform in minutes, and usually for free. In reality, social media is hard for exactly the same reason. When the barrier to entry is low, the barrier to attention is high.

The fundamental path to succeeding with social media is to consistently contribute meaningfully—engaging with you should make the lives of those engaging more meaningful. The bonus would be to achieve this without adding costs to the others.

As you think through your social media strategy, here are seven unwritten rules of social media.

1. Connection does not imply permission

Many social networks make it easy for you to connect with anyone. You can follow someone on TwitterQuora or Google Plus without needing their permission to do that. A small percentage of them might follow you back. If they do, you have a two-way connection. Don’t confuse the two-way connection as permission to interrupt them. You need to build a relationship and there is no shortcut for that.

2. Access does not imply entitlement

When you connect with someone on a social network and start engaging with them, you have access. Don’t assume that they owe you something because you are now engaging them on social media.

3. Activity is not productivity

The barrier to create content on a social network is virtually non-existent. This means that you can write whatever you want irrespective of whether it makes sense or not. You can get extremely busy with social media— trying to post anything and everything. In your enthusiasm to share, you might drop the quality of what you share and that’s when the problem starts—people will silently start to ignore you. (To read more, please see 9 ways people respond to your content online.)

4. More is not better

When what you write about is a hit for some reason, you tend to end up doing more of it on social media forgetting that everything has a lifecycle of its own. What’s hot today may not stay hot tomorrow and what’s hot tomorrow may not stay hot. So trying to do more of what works does not guarantee success—you need to adapt all the time.

5. Reciprocation is optional

Don’t do anything with an expectation that someone will reciprocate back. Equal actions don’t create equal impact on social media. Say you have a 1,000 followers and you share something from another person who has 10,000 followers. Expecting him to share something from you would mean you are expecting someone to give back ten times of what you gave them.

6. Amplification without accomplishment is futile

Social media is a great amplifier. But fundamentals of mathematics are always at play. You can multiply zero with anything and the result will still be zero. You need relevant accomplishments as the foundation and social media can help amplify them. Sans accomplishments, it’s hard to amplify. Unless your business is to make money with social media, you have to get out of social media and spend time on building some meaningful accomplishments. Once you have them, you can use those to extend your influence using social media.

7. Engagement without enrichment is not effective

You are only as rich as the enrichment you bring to the world around you. When you enrich someone, you make their life more meaningful—at home or at work or in both places. Social media provides an excellent opportunity enrich people’s lives. Engagement for the sake of engagement can only make you get tired. Engage with an intention to enrich and you will not only win with social media but also makes this world a better place.

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Rajesh Setty is an entrepreneur, author and speaker based in Silicon Valley. He also creates and sells limited-edition prints at Sparktastic. You can follow him on Twitter at @rajsetty.

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  • Ben Winegarden 4 months ago

    Ben Winegarden

    It's important to be able to filter the redundant information to more easily digest what's important. - Benjamin Winegarden

  • Joseph Dabon 5 months ago

    Joseph Dabon

    It's great. Here are my thoughts about the social media I am a member in:1. Facebook - too much clutter. Everybody wants everybody to know what they are doing on a particular day. The only reason I can be thankful for is that I haven't read of someone's IBS.2. Twitter - too short posts and those in it are posting their sites, not minding what others are posting.3. LinkedIn - not very user-friendly. When I click a notification link, I am taken to the top of the threads page making it necessary for me to scroll through a lot of threads before I see what the notification is about - if ever.Joseph Dabon

  • GILBERT GERRETSEN 9 months ago

    GILBERT GERRETSEN

    I like the last one ... Engagement without enrichment is not effective. There are lots of "new media experts" who only self-promote and never engage. Blatant and continuous self-promoters send a strong message that they don't really care about anyone except themselves. The biggest law of influence generation is ... show me how much YOU care before I bother caring!

  • Tobias Bray 10 months ago

    Tobias Bray

    Start with thinking about your buyer's journey. Nailing this will ensure that these seven and many other unwritten rules of engagement are considered. The buyer's journey is not an easy thing to nail - most of us continue to think like producers rather than consumers - examples? Call the help desk at Dell.

  • Ann Doran 10 months ago

    Ann Doran

    Thank you for this article. I have been so sceptical about Social Media and recently took some best practice Social Media training, your article has reiterated my conerns but offered the solution and guidance that sits well with me.

  • Dr. Liz Alexander 10 months ago

    Dr. Liz Alexander

    Great advice, Rajesh. For most of these reasons I've seriously cut back on the amount of time I spend on LinkedIn discussion boards, for example. Typically what starts out as a valuable sharing of experiences and insights quickly devolves into a stream of consciousness that takes us down various rabbit holes...but people keep posting! I particularly applaud you pointing out how social media needs to fit into someone's overall business strategy (not least by establishing and nurturing relationships) rather becoming a stand-alone time suck. The subtlety that so many people are overlooking right now is that of contributing to and even shaping a conversation without constantly coming across as "me, me, me" and "sell, sell, sell." This is still a relatively new form of social interaction, of course. One can only hope that with time and practice we settle down into some shared understanding (unconscious competence) around how to use this powerful connector that transcends geography and other physical barriers to exchanging ideas.

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