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Are You and Your Business Partner Compatible?

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Are You and Your Business Partner Compatible?

January 20, 2012

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Small-business owners like to say that it's really lonely at the top. It can be more rewarding if you have the right partner to build a company with. But unfortunately, having a partner can be an absolute nightmare.

When it works, your partner can share the responsibility of the day-to-day weight of running the company. This can be comforting and supportive. Often, two people running a business together can effectively become greater than the sum of the whole, if theirs is a synergy of skills.

More frequently, two people working together means conflict. Unsettled partner disagreements can kill a company. If partners don’t work equally hard toward the same goal, conflicts will erupt.

It's far easier to go into business with someone than to get out of the business. The honeymoon phase of any relationship is always more exciting than the daily grind of working together over the many years it takes to be financially successful.

If you're thinking of going into business with a partner, or already have one, take the partnership test.

Are you compatible with your partner?

Answer yes or no to each question. Score one point for each yes answer.

1. Do you respect and trust your partner?

Forget about skills in this first question. Respect and trust will sustain a healthy partnership over the long term, regardless of each person's skill set. If there are personal differences, never divulge them to employees or vendors. You have to trust that your partner will not reveal anything the two of you are working out.

2. Are your skills complementary to your partner's?

If you are both product-development geeks, yours may not be the best pairing. Complementary skills like marketing and technology are often more effective partnerships. Blending divergent skills in a single company allows a natural division of responsibility for leadership, which will reduce potential conflict areas.

3. Can you communicate effectively with each other?

Especially when the chips are down, you must be able to communicate well and argue productively. Can you keep it from getting personal? Do you have a track record of making decisions together even if you initially disagreed? Use the 24-hour rule where both partners never let unresolved issues fester more than a day without resolution.

4. Do you agree on how to use money?

A common issue with any professional marriage, is making decisions around money. Do you both have common values of what to invest in and where to allocate resources?

5. Do you agree on the exit strategy or end game of the business?

Do you plan to take on investors to expand the business for eventual sale or does one partner plan to leave it to their children? Make sure you establish a legal mechanism for one of you to get out.

6. Does your spouse or significant other like your partner?

This can be a critical factor. The relationship partner will be whispering in the business partner's ear at the end of the day. What are they saying about you?

7. Is there an imbalance in effort or contribution between partners?

Overtime, what started out as "equal" becomes "unequal" at times. Can each partner accept this changing dynamic? If not, see #5.

How does your partnership score?

Give yourselves one point for every yes answer.

Score 0 to 2: Let's face it, you are not compatible with your partner. Divorce is in your future. Get out now.

Score 3 to 5: It will be hard to make it work. Call me or see another business advisor for help.

Score 6 or 7: You are made for each other.

What rules make your partnership effective or an absolute nightmare?

What do you think?

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  • Mike Agron 3 months ago

    Mike Agron

    As someone who over 30 plus years has had 3 business partnerships, all of these points are spot on. All of the partnerships I've been involved in, like any relationship have been stronger and weaker across this criteria. But certainly, trust and how each other views financial issues, on a scale of 1-10, must be a 9 or 10, or forget it, the partnership is doomed for failure, which often is very painful and bitter. Barry is right it's easier to go into a partnership, then out of it.Two things I've learned that weren't included in the criteria are:1. Your spouse is as critical to forming a partnership with another person. More than do they like and respect the person, which can be a showstopper if they don't (as spouses usually will have your back in these types of situations) is HOW DOES YOUR SPOUSE FEEL ABOUT YOU GOING INTO BUSINESS, if they are risk adverse and would prefer you to have a "real job", you need to get that out on the table earlier than later.2. Going into a business with a close personal friend can also be problematic, as what you find charming and love "unconditionally" in a friend, can drive you nuts in business.Mike

  • Robert Goetz 4 months ago

    Robert Goetz

    Good article Barry. The business grows faster and more profitably when there's a strong, complementary division of task and responsibilities across 2 or more owners. I've seen the most successful business partnerships where partners first dated, then "lived together" before marrying into a formal arrangement. Wish I had done that several years ago when a partner locked me out of one of "my" ventures. A court order and 3 deputy sheriffs resulted in my regaining quick control!

  • Denise Mann 4 months ago

    Denise Mann

    Yes, this is great advice. Exactly why my partner and I went our separate ways after 4 years and were never extremely successful during our time together. Unfortunately, much of these conflicts came up after we were already partners for a few years and, through a great deal of blind trust and poorly-crafted legal agreements, it was too late. I lost the business I'd built without her but was forced to divide with her. Years of time and personal funds were invested and lost.I recommend a year of trial where the potential partners work together as independent contractors. After that year, have a third-party business planner interview each of you to create your vision for the company, including leadership and exit strategy discussion. Based on that, a competent business planner can guide you into the merger (through all the proper legal channels) or tell you it'll never work. And listen to them if they say that!

  • Ben Winegarden 4 months ago

    Ben Winegarden

    Some degree of conflict is inevitable at some point. Trust is the most important thing. - Ben Winegarden

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