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"What's the magic word?"
"Please, can I have chocolate cake?"
It's a simple enough concept. One that our parents and grandparents drilled into us from a very early age. You can't just go through life making demands or receiving things without adding two "magic" words to your vocabulary: please and thanks.
So, why is it that the moment we open up Twitter, Facebook and even our e-mail, we forget those simple, magical words?
I've lost track of the number of e-mails, tweets and other general requests that simply rub me the wrong way, because of the omission of a "please" or "thank you." It's as if, in our infantile use of newfangled social media tools, we've forgotten everything our mother taught us.
In business, this can kill your efforts to build any kind of positive reputation or presence online. No matter how much you spend on the latest dashboards, monitoring tools or specialized staff members, it will be all for nothing if you forget your Ps and Qs.
Think about it. A customer tweets how great your product is and how wonderful it is to work with your company. How much of that goodwill goes out the window when you don't bother to reply with a simple "thank you."
Or, you send an e-mail to a business partner, asking for a report that you desperately need by the end of the day. In your rush to get the e-mail sent out, you don't bother to include a "please," "thanks" or "I would be very grateful." You've lost any opportunity to endear yourself to the recipient and instead sent what looks like a rude, assumptive, demand. If I were the recipient, your e-mail would be ignored for most of the day.
There's no excuse. Really. Only have 140 characters and can't afford to waste a single one of them? I can promise you that nothing in your tweet is more important than "please" or "thanks." Heck, you can shorten that to "plz" or "thx" if you must. Three characters and you'll win over your followers.
Here are some other examples of the power of the "magic" words:
There's more at stake here than mere chocolate cake, so the next time you reach for that keyboard, make sure it includes the keys for P and Q.
Great article. I'd also like to recommend being grammatically correct in addition to being polite. It drives me crazy when people forget the rules.
I very much agree with this as i was taught many years ago by my parents that it is so easy and when you say please and thank you continuesly then it will just become a second nature to you. Even in my emails i will always start with please and finish with thank you. Having manners and being polite should be something that we all do and then we will receive back from others the same respect.There is a saying that if you respect others then they will in return show you the respect back.And i feel that this is so very true.Thank youEsther
Great article Andy. It's always great to read what you have to say.Gary Hendersonhttp://www.InteractivityMarketing.com
I would like to add... it's "Please, MAY I have chocolate cake." Words mean things.
Andy, This is a terrific; however, I think it's really sad that we have to reminded of what should be common courtesies. Thanks for the posting!Bea
Great reminder, and I have a follow-on question: the third part of the manners circle is "you're welcome," right? I've seen a few posts on both sides of the fence, one stating that coming back with a "you're welcome" is the ultimate polite move in social media, and others saying that it just clogs the stream and is unnecessary. Could you please weigh in on this aspect of the manners conversation?
Chris makes a valid point. I sometimes use "My Pleasure" but that depends on the situation.
I bet you'll get answers across the board on this one. Most of the folks I work with online prefer a "no reply necessary" policy to a "Thank You". There is usually too much traffic and the less the better. Excellent food for thought!
Hi Andy, Thanks for writing such a great article. You are so right...those few characters or 2 words change the whole slant of the request, comment, etc. It's amazing how interested we are in netiquette at the expense of basic etiquette. Seriously how difficult is it to be polite. It is a casual medium but politeness is politeness in any medium. Cheers, ilana eberson
Thanks for this post Andy! Spot on as always
Thanks Andy!
This post is right up our alley! Great insights Andy.Many people forget that etiquette extends into the online world as well, including social media. I think one of the underlying issues w/ proper social manners is that that medium is somewhat casual to begin with, which unfortunately gives people the assumption that it's OK to be casual with manners as well.Another issue I see is that people tend to leave out the Pleases & Thank You's to make room for, what they deem, more important words in a status message w/ a limited number of characters. The ironic things is, there's little more important than those two words, like you said.These are some of the reasons we created Thankuz, a web app to send instant thank you notes to people, places and things for gifts, acts and expressions. Create and send notes via Email, Facebook, Twitter or Short URL.Thanks again Andy! Always enjoy the little nuggets of brilliance you have to share.
I don't think we can ever say "thank you" enough, so thank you for your comment! :-)
I couldn't agree more, Andy! This is one of my biggest rants, basic manners are invaluable. Whether it be personal relationships, business, or a passing stranger on the street, you make everyone's day better when you take a minute to let someone know that they are appreciated.Great post, *thanks* for sharing ;)
Outstanding post, Andy. So many have lost those two important words from their vocabulary.
Andy - Great post. Somewhere along the line we lost the bread and butter etiquette and decency that should be part of everyone's DNA. "Thanks" for reminding us about something we shouldn't need to be reminded about.
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Grant Bjorn 1 months ago
Good afternoon Andy,Please write another article and thank you for the one you wrote.Sincerely,Grant BjornSenior Project ManagerLocal News Media Groupwww.LocalNewsMediaGroup.com