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March 23, 2011

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When Internet marketing began, it seemed to rush towards one mindset: "buy now." Lots of marketers spend lots of time pushing people toward that end. Buy, buy, buy. They measure sites by conversions (which makes sense, of course), but that's like measuring a relationship in kisses only. With the advent of social networks and social media, the real opportunity is shifting our mindset from "buy now" to "friend now," and I'll explain why.

 

Buying is an event

 

If I need to get my guitar repaired, that's a single event. But I'm going to have that guitar for years, and I might need a new one. Would you rather push me to buy a repair, or would you rather get me to friend you on Facebook and start a relationship? That guitar might get old. I might want to buy another, but I might not need that the moment I find your site. If all you sell me is "buy now," I'm likely to wander off because I don't need that service at that time.

 

Friending needs backup

 

OK, so maybe I sold you on friending someone on a social network. The risk is this: if that network goes away, you've got nothing. The goal, then, is to friend them in a few places, and maybe also ask for their e-mail address. You might have heard that e-mail is dead. Ninety-three percent of people have an opt-in relationship daily with brands (versus 15 percent on Facebook and 4 percent on Twitter). I say e-mail is alive. I also say that having a relationship with someone that includes not only a connection in a social network, but an e-mail address also is the first step towards having gold.

 

Then what?

 

Friending isn't your green light to selling. It's your opportunity to get to know your prospective new connection. It's a chance to make that relationship spread into a potential referral. Remember, selling to one person is one thing. Selling to that person's connections gives you even more opportunities. The selling comes, but it comes after connecting and being of value. It comes after showing that you want the relationship more than the sale.

 

Friending sells

 

The opportunity to build a business in this way is what the social Web has built. Before now, the only option was to build a "buy now" experience. And though a well-crafted sales page is very important to a business seeking to do work online, it's even more important to build social connection points into your website, into your methods and into the way you sell. Sell your people on friending before the buy. It's worth money. 

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  • Tim Brownson 10 months ago

    Tim Brownson

    Good article Chris and I agree 100% about the e-mail approach. I'm seeing a dip in RSS subscribers that is more than offset by an increase in e-mail subscribers. E-mail aint dying , but I suspect RSS maybe.

    This approach reminds me of Bob Pooles excellent book "Listen First, Sell Later" and I just wished more people would adopt this kind of attitude rather than constantly be trying to sell, sell, sell!

  • Fredrick Nijm 10 months ago

    Fredrick Nijm

    Spot on Chris. It's all about building trust and friendships before you try to sell them. Build an advocate and you have a friend for life.

    I wrote a similar article on my blog: http://www.addoway.com/addoway/blog/b/KISS-The-simple-5-step-approach-to-building-up-your-brand-socially

  • Cera Lockhart 10 months ago

    Cera Lockhart

    Great article! It is essential for brands to understand the importance of online relationship building. I love the line "that's like measuring a relationship in kisses only".

  • MARY PISARKIEWICZ 10 months ago

    MARY PISARKIEWICZ

    We were just discussing this exact topic on our blog. There is a process involved in building relationships and for the first time marketers have such a vast opportunity to build relationships with customers, which was never before possible on this scale. Here, read more at www.designpm.net

  • Ryan Stewman 10 months ago

    Ryan Stewman

    Great article. Now days with all this instant gratification and the "what can you do for me attitude" we forget to pay attention to the actual needs of our porspects. People dont want to be sold something. They want to make a choice to buy something. People pushing sales too hard has put a strain on the sales industry. The world now walks around with their guard up. www.pushtoexcellence.com

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